Mostly, it is my fault. Friendships are work. They become what you put into them. If we don’t put time and effort into them, relationships won’t grow.
As today’s women, we are busy. Some of us work full time, while others stay home. Between our many obligations and responsibilities, we neglect ourselves and our friendships because
But after reading today’s scripture, I am again moved. Here Mary, who just found out that she would be having the Son of God, goes on a trip to visit her pregnant relative. She didn’t stay home to plan and get her nursery read; unselfishly, she went to care for Elizabeth. Mary and Elizabeth had a special bond and nothing would keep them apart.
Then I look at the connection between Jesus and John. John leapt in his mother’s room when Mary arrived. It was like he was excited that his Lord had come. In the womb, there was already a bond between them.
Back to Mary and Elizabeth…..there is a lot to take from their relationship, Mary made time for Elizabeth. Shouldn’t we therefore make time for our friends? I feel guilty for leaving my children to go do something I want to do (have lunch with a friend), so I don’t do it. That is my choice and something I will have to work through. I think as my children get older and more independent, I will find more time for myself and my friendships.
I stop to think, though, of the friendships I do have. I thank God each day for the women of Calvary Baptist Church. Each one in their season of life, has blessed me in some way. Whether through just having an adult to talk to after spending a long day with a bunch of fourth graders or from their comforting words after the death of a loved one, I have shared so much with these women. They befriended me when I first came to Calvary. They have been there through two pregnancies. They comforted me when I lost my grandparents. They prayed for me when Jeffrey was gone to Japan and South Carolina. I can only hope that I have been a blessing to them as well.
One thing that I’ve learned while reading Friendship for Grown-Ups is that we have to give as well as receive. We don’t want to drain our friends of all their resources by being takers. That was also the example of Mary. She gave of herself to Elizabeth. Her life was changing before her eyes, yet, she still made time for the ones she loved and cared for.
I thank God for the example of Mary. I hope that I can be that type of friend. I pray that He will do a good work through me that I may be a blessing to my friends and coworkers, that through me, they will feel his love and experience his grace and mercy. I thank God for my friends, for all the times they have made a difference in my life. I thank God for each lady joining me through this journey and pray that He would bless them greatly and meet whatever need they may have.