Tour of Duty Bible Study

This was the last week for the Tour of Duty Bible study. However, my book will stay close by!  There are so many great resources within the book and the amount of scripture that relates to so much of life.....oh, my....it is wonderful.

So, below you will find my answers to the discussion questions for the last two chapters.  Feel free to comment.

Ch. 6 – Facing the Giants

Discuss your biggest giant that keeps your eyes off God. Is this giant a recent distraction, or is it a giant that keeps returning?

I think a mix of failure, worry, and time. I do have worries concerning deployment, I fear failing my family during this time, taking care of our home, raising the kids by myself, and messing up our finances. Time hit me today. It was only 11:30, but it felt well into the afternoon. I don't like days like that! The failure thing keeps returning, but the others are recent. I have found when these giants invade, I've been quick to turn them over to God. I hope I can continue to do that!


Do you agree with the statement “Giants require confrontation”? How have you confronted your giants lately?

I do agree with that statement. If you don't confront them, I think they grow bigger and become harder to confront them down the road.

Praying is a way to confront these giants, turning them over to God.


How does knowing that the enemy could be the driving force behind your giant change your perspective on it?

It shows that God is for us, not against his. The battle is the Lord's!


What part of the David and Goliath story hit home with you this week?

I think the part where Saul gave David the armor instead of fully relying on God as David did. I think sometimes we do that too. We say, "Ok, God, I trust you in this, BUT...." It's like we try to help God out a little...like He needs help! :)


Which of the bulleted items on page 93 is the hardest for you to remember and why?

Sometimes all of them.

We feel inadequate because of our experience (being reserve or guard instead of active duty) or because of our age (I'm too old/young for this).

I think the other two work together. If we don't recognize the giants God has already defeated in our lives, then we do fail to give Him the credit and it is hard to get that victory. We aren't really relying on Him.


Discuss these verses: John 15:4-5 and Isaiah 40:31. How do these verses both challenge and encourage you?

Isaiah 40:31
But those who wait on the Lord
Shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.

John 15:4-5
Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me.

I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.

These verses are beautiful. I am reminded that I am nothing without God. He is my everything. Just this week, I had a handful of people tell me, "You will get through this because you are strong."

No, I am not strong. My strength comes from the Lord. He is my Strong Tower. I know I can't do anything without Him.


What would your life look like without God? How can you trust Him more fully this week?

Without God, my life would be a mess. I would have no where to turn. The thing is, you can talk to people, confide in them, get advice from them, but it just isn't the same as having Jesus as your best friend. Throughout this journey, I will lean on Him and His Word.


Ch. 7 – This is Your Time
This chapter started with some heavy questions about God’s purpose for your life. If you feel comfortable sharing, what were some of your answers?

God has given me sort of a happy-go-lucky personality. I don't really stress alot (I guess outwardly anyway). I can pretty much get along with anyone. I hate confrontation. I think, or like to think, that I am fullfilling God's purpose by being the best wife I can be. I try to be supportive to whatever my husband is called to do. As for my children, I try to be the best mom I can be for them. I am doing my best to raise them as godly children. I'd like to think I am helpful to others when they are in need.


What are your thoughts on Romans 8:28?

Romans 8:28 says, "And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose." It reminds me that if I am fullfilling His purpose, then things will work out for good. I may not always understand or see the immediate "good" but I can have faith that He is in control and loves me.


What’s the difference between self-created courage and courage that comes from God? What insights did you have as you read about courage?

I think self-created courage is fake. We put on a front. We surround ourselves with "good stuff." We don't let people see the real us. The courage that comes from God is real. It shows our fears and our weaknesses, but shows that we are fully relying on Him.


What did you learn from the story of Esther this week?

Like Esther, I am called to this. Knowing that God has a plan, that He has called me, makes things less frightening. I can take comfort in knowing that He is with me each step of the way.


How do you find yourself being courageous? In what areas of life do you struggle with this?

I think just "keeping on keeping on." It is hard. Like today, the boys were content sitting in front of the TV and computer. I was content catching up on some of my favorite shows, but I knew it would make for a long day, a long weekend if we just stayed put. So we left the house. I think sometimes, just leaving the house is going to be key for me. I hate getting out in the cold, so with winter approaching, I know that I need to get out even if it is running to Sonic to get a drink with the kids every once in a while.


What’s the biggest takeaway you’ve had from this study and sharing and hearing from the other ladies who have participated over the last 5 weeks?

I think just that all of this has a purpose. None of us are alone. God planned our deployments. He planned for us to do this study together. He is in control.

I know we had a conversation about some of us not having those military spouse connections because we are guard or reserves, and I thought of those that don't have those civilian connections. As for me, I work in the public school system. I have obligations at church. My children are involved in activities that require my support. I have  people that are here for me in my hometown, next door, down the road, across town. I am thankful for that. I pray that those that don't have that support system would find one. That others would reach out to them. Just know, ladies, that I am here for you. We may never be able to meet face to face, but we do have this cyber world where we are able to connect!



I hope everyone has a wonderful Thanksgiving, whether you are with your Soldier or not.

Tour of Duty Bible Study

Below are the answers to the discussion questions for Chapters 4 and 5. Please feel free to comment on anything even if you aren't participating in the study. I would love to hear your thoughts!

Ch. 4 – The Desert of Enough


1. Have you ever felt like no one understood what you were going through? How does this misunderstanding from others make deployment more difficult?

I think we have all felt that no one understands. In all reality, there are those that do. I think about the women before us who didn't have email, SKYPE, and texting. They had to wait and wait and wait and wait some more to hear from their Soldiers. Wonder if they think we don't understand?!?

Seriously though....it does make things difficult. I think maybe we let that misunderstanding make us feel entitled to a big pity party. We can stop reaching out for help (if we ever did in the first place). I think it can cause us to alienate ourselves from people who really do care about us and want to help us.


2. If you’re comfortable with doing it, describe a situation when you felt stuck in an emotional desert.

When my husband traveled to Japan (our first long trip away from each other), I was left home with my 2 1/2 year old. It was a very cold December. My son had locked himself in the bathroom with the water running earlier in the week. For a couple of nights our heat kept messing up. It would work throughtout the day and then stop at night. The last straw came when I woke up at 2 am and it was 53 degrees in the house. I cried and told God that I just couldn't do it. I couldn't pack up my son and somewhere to spend the night and then get up for work. I missed my husband and wanted him home. I wanted someone to have answers and to fix things because i just couldn't. God heard my cry and got me through that. The heat miraclulously came back on within minutes and my son and I slept warmly the rest of the night. I felt renewed by just handing it all over to God.

3. We talked in the chapter about finding shelter in God’s love for us. Have you experienced this shelter from God? If so, describe it.

Oh, yes! His shelter comes in so many forms. Having just enough money to pay the bills. A friend (or stranger) there when you need them. The words we need to hear from scripture or song. God definitely provdies for us in so many amazing ways.

4. We looked at some discouraging circumstances in the life of Noah, David, the Israelites and Hannah. With which of these situations could you most relate?

I have definitely wanted a child badly. It was one of those times when I told myself God would let us have a baby when he was ready and not being pregnant was ok. Only I found that I truly didn't believe it. I had gone to the doctor thinking/believing I was pregnant. When the nurse told me I wasn't, I practically ran from the office. My husband had to catch up with me. It was definitely discouraging, but I realized that my faith wasn't what it should have been. It took lots of prayer to get me where I needed to be.

5. Part of the journey of deployment includes emotional highs and lows. What can you do to combat this emotional roller coaster?

Prayer. Scripture reading. PRAISE GOD! It is important to realize that God is in control. This is His plan and that he will see us through. For me, not knowing whether or not this deployment was going to come was hard. I am a planner by nature. I needed to know one way or the other so I could have peace either way. God made His decision when we learned to accept His timetable.

6. We asked on page 63 for you to describe a time when belief in God’s absolute control over a situation encouraged you or someone you know. If you’re comfortable in doing so, share that time with us here.

My husband and I found ourselves in a financial mess after he returned from CH-BOLC. What was supposed to turn into a short trip (3 hour tour HA!) became the full course. At the time, we thought this was the end of the world. However, it was a blessing in disguise. We were able to get our vehicle payed off and figure out how to pay off some other bills in a timely manner. I like to think we are on our way to recovery!

7. Do you believe that God sympathizes and understands when we struggle? If so, how does that help you?

YES! YES! YES! John 16:33 says, "These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”

It is encouraging to know that God has control and power over all things and that He wants us to have peace. We can "feel better" about difficult times knowing that He stands with us.

8. In what ways can you make deployment easier on yourself by realizing you don’t have to be perfect?

It allows us a time to try to cut back on things that are not important. Honestly, does anyone other than ourselves expect us to be perfect. My husband (mom, mother-in-law, half of our church) reminded me this week to ask for help, to take care of me needs. It is helpful to have those closest to you remind you to do that. They are giving you the OK not to be perfect.

9. Which Scripture passage out of the ones that identify rest on p. 67 meant the most to you?

Psalm 4:8: I will both lie down in peace and sleep. For You alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety.


I don't sleep well when my husband is not home. The dog barks and I look out the window. I hear a creak and walk the house. Worries and stresses flood my thoughts. However, this verse reminds me that God provides me with true peace and rest. I can give my burdens to him and he will take care of me.

10. How does knowing that God will walk with you through the Desert of Enough help you today?
It is an amazing reminder that I am not on this journey alone.

Ch. 5 – Mountain for One

1. We’re in our fourth week of this study – only 1 week left!! What has God taught you recently through the journey of deployment? It can be big or small.

God has just been reminding me of things I know (things that I hope my faith will hold on to). I need to let go of some things, take care of myself, and just trust Him.

Everything is in God's timing. We can't rush things. We can't slow things. We are so not in control.

2. What did you think about this chapter this week? Have you found yourself on a Mountain for One recently? If you feel comfortable, share what that’s been like.

My Mountain for One has not yet come. Ask me again in a few weeks!!!

3. If you feel comfortable, share your response to the question on page 75 regarding a time when you wanted to give up.

I think sometimes the frustration of feeling like we have to do it all, or being in position when you didn't have support makes you want to give up. I remember wanting to give up on a church committee because I felt like I was the only one doing anything when it was to be a group effort. Giving up is the easy way out. I stayed on the committee after airing out my feelings to my husband and pastor, and that gave me a new outlook. I took the focus off of me and put it on God.

4. To which CAVE do you most often retreat in hard times?

I think maybe Apathy. It is easy for me to remove myself emotionally from situations.

5. What has God already done in your life that you missed because you weren’t looking?

I think I missed out on things due to fear. My middle school music teacher encouraged my to be in the high school color guard, but I didn't feel like I was good enough. I even backed out of living in the dorms in college due to fear, of what, I don't know. I just chickened out. When you lack self esteem fear grips you and you miss out on what God can offer you. Those things could have built my confidence and provided great experiences.

6. Read Philippians 4:8 and discuss your thoughts. What other verses has God used to encourage you?

When I read Philippians 4:8, I am reminded that whatever we set our thoughts upon is what we become. We can make excuses for ourselves about many things to make us "not look so bad." When we do, that becomes our lifestyle. One thing I am seeing now is that some women that I care about are convincing themselves they need a break from their husbands and children, so for them it is ok to go out to clubs just to get away. I think that is asking for trouble. I don't see anything wrong with some moms taking time to go to dinner to hang out to talk, but going out drinking to places where others are there to hook up, not so good. We have to be very careful of becoming worn out. We shouldn't view our families, our lives, or the season we are in as a burden, when we do, that is asking Satan to come on in and take over.

I love Psalm 118:24: This is the day the Lord has made; we will rejoice and be glad in it. It reminds me that each day is a gift. We are not promised tomorrow, so we should make the most of today.

Music also touches my heart. We sang Spirit of the Living God at church recently and it really spoke to me.

Spirit of the living God, fall fresh on me;
Spirit of the living God, fall fresh on me.
Melt me, mold me, fill me, use me.
Spirit of the living God, fall fresh on me.

7. Like Elijah, what action is God telling you to do?

I think God is telling me to be in his presence. So many times I find myself slipping away from Him because I have made my life so busy and so unorganized. I need to focus on Him.

8. How has God been whispering encouragement to you this week?

God has definitely been whispering to me this week! I have felt and heard Him in the little things, cherishing the time with my family. He has definitely reminded that He is in control and urging me to trust Him.


9. How do you make reading your Bible a priority? When do you do this? What tips can you share with other women in the group?

When I feel like I am not as close to God as I need to be, I realize it is because I have not been reading my Bible. When thing I have learned to do is to keep a Bible near me, in my bag, by the recliner or bed, or even as an APP on my iPad or cell phone. Then when I have a down moment, I read scripture instead of magazines, playing games, or watching TV. I've done this early in the mornings before any one else is up, in doctor's offices, in the car while waiting for my husband to come out of a store, or at night while the kids are watching cartoons before bedtime. I had to acknowledge all the ways I waste time before I found the time. We all complain that we just don't have time, but if we assess our internet time, our tv time, etc, then we really do have the time, we are just choosing other things.

Tour of Duty Bible Study: Chapters 2 and 3

A little warning...this post started out as planned and then got a little soap boxy and off track. Proceed with caution!

I am still taking part in the Tour of Duty Bible Study.  I have been a little behind this week, but am caught up for now.  If you would like to get in on the conversations, you can click HERE.

These chapters reminded me that life is full of surprises (detours).  We have a choice in how we can react to the unexpected, to our fears.  The best way to react is to lean on God. 

The first question Sara asked was what are some of your What If questions.  We all have them. We all worry about our Soldiers. We worry about their safe return. We worry how we each might change.  The thing to do, however, is to turn them over to God.  Wednesday night during church, one of the verses we talked about was Mark 11:24, Therefore I say unto you, whatever things you desire, when you pray, believe that you will receive them, and you shall have them. That verse really spoke to me.  When Colin and I talked about some of his worries with deployment, I shared this verse with him and reminded him that God hears us. 

And with this discussion, I stop to think about the news story I heard this morning. I won't name names, but a certain high official resigned a position citing a certain reason, and some guy that was interviewed basically blamed the government/military for this official's problem.  I'm sorry, but we make our own choices.  We all face things where we have to make a choice.  No one can make that choice for us.  Had this official turned to God with whatever caused him to be in this situation, it may have turned out differently.  George Jones sings a song called Choices. He sings of the good and bad choices he has made and that he will live and die with those choses. There is no one to blame but himself. 

So what am I saying?  We need to lean on God. We need to trust him.  We need to let him guide us. We need make choices that are pleasing to him.  We have always have a choice. Let us choose God. 

Tour of Duty: The Road Less Traveled

This is the official start of the Tour of Duty Bible Study. Last week was used as an introductory session. It was so great to "meet" some amazing women.  I am looking forward to growing and learning from this study.

Below are the questions that Sara gave us this week along with my answers.  Feel free to comment even if you are not taking part in the study.

Ch. 1 – The Road Less Traveled


1. What were your initial thoughts about this chapter/this topic this week? What’s one thing that stuck out to you?

I think we all need that reminder that this is all in God’s plan, that He chose us for this. We may say, “Whoa! I didn’t sign up for this!” but God says, “I’ve placed you hear for a reason.”

2. On pg. 11, what were your early expectations when you were first married or you first became a military wife?

When I my husband I and were first married, neither of us ever imagined being a military family. My expectation as a young married couple was that we would support each other and be there for each other.

Since becoming a military family, those expectations have not changed. I knew that I would be the supporter of my husband. I expected there to be difficult times.

3. What are some of the things you’ve done to prepare for deployment?

One of the first things we did was assess our priorities. We knew that our church nominating committee would be contacting us and we would have work commitments as well. We decided to say no to some things that would “ease” our schedules.

I began reading When Duty Calls which was provided to us by the NAMB. This helped me figure out some of the things that we needed to do. During this time, I also decided to do this bible study again.

4. In this chapter, we describe deployment as hills, valleys, sharp turns, U-turns, thick fog, desert heat and stormy wet roads. Have you experienced some of these conditions? Which ones? What are you experiencing now?

Let me just say, “Oh, my goodness!” We are riding right on that rollercoaster that has all the ups and downs, sharp turns and fog!

We were mentally preparing for this deployment. Then we found out that it wasn’t going to happen. Then we hear that it could still possibly happen.

Mentally, we are worn out. I think my husband more so than me. I’m a kind of go with the flow person, but just not knowing is hard.

5. In the section, “God has His best in mind for us” (p. 13), we talk about the big picture and “God’s best” versus “our best.” What is the difference? How have you seen this played out in your own life?

God’s best is for Him. Our best is for us.

Very seldom do we place ourselves in difficult situations on purpose. Human nature wants peace, happiness, and everything to be perfect. We usually avoid that which makes us uncomfortable.

However, God’s best will bring glory to Him. He will place us in situations that we can’t get through without Him.

When my husband was away over 3 months for CH-BOLC, I was basically a single mom of 3 boys, ages 8, 4, and 3 months. There was so much “drama” that happened during that time: my grandmother passed away, I got a flat tire, our electricity went out in one part of our house, our air unit messed up, school started back…..the list goes on. I had to learn to depend on others, including those two burly strangers at Target who changed my tire in the parking lot. I had to admit that I couldn’t do it all and that was ok. God changed me during that time. I became a different person because of Him. Without that experience, I would not have grown in my independence, coping skills, or in my relationships with others including my husband and God.

6. We talked about choosing bitterness versus trusting God. It’s easy to resent God for what He allows to happen to us. How can you trust Him despite your circumstances?

We definitely need to realize that we have a choice on how we react to God and the things he places before us. I think through prayer and scripture reading we can learn to trust him. We have to be honest with ourselves about our struggles and stop thinking we have to (and can) do everything.

7. Which letter of the SET acronym do you struggle with the most? What steps can you take to struggle less with it?

Equipped is a struggle for me. I think it is the simple fact that as a Reserve wife, I don’t feel connected to any one. My husband is with his 3rd Reserve unit (sort of in limbo). I have only met a few from the previous two. I don’t even have a relationship with his assistant’s wife. I do have my own support system at home, but I think having even the smallest relationship with other spouses of Soldiers he will be working with would be beneficial. Even being involved in an FRG would help, but currently that is not available to me.

8. What’s the hardest thing about deployment for you? What do you need to do to turn this fear/challenge/struggle over to God? (And how can the rest of us pray for you in this?)

The hardest thing for me currently is “Will there be a deployment?” The back and forth and up and down are hard. We just have to trust that God is using this time to prepare us for what is ahead.

Tour of Duty Week 1

Today was the start of the Tour of Duty Bible study I am taking part in, again. 

I really felt that God was leading me to this study.  When we learned that Jeff would be deploying, I put this study on my To Do list.  I got so much from this study the first time I did it and knew it would help me through the deployment.  Well, orders were rescinded, but I still considered doing the study.  Then came the email from Wives of Faith that the study was going to be online.  I knew doing the study was a must.

So this week, we are introducing ourselves.  For those of you that don't know me....

Hi, y'all!  I'm Natasha!

Never in my wildest dreams did I expect to be a military wife. 

Jeff and I started dating in 1991 and were married 8 years later. That puts at a 21 year relationship, married for 13 of those years.  It wasn't until about 4 years ago that we began this journey.  He is now a Chaplain for the US Army Reserves.

I can't speak for how I've dealt with deployment because Jeff has not been deployed.  I can speak, however, about how I've deal with long separations, anywhere from a long weekend to almost 4 months.  It isn't easy to say the least.  However, I have grown from those experiences. 

I have to admit, I've never really had really high self esteem.  I've always doubted my abilities, and still do to a point.  But, taking care of home and children alone places a person in situations you least expect. 

Proverbs 3:5-6 says
Trust in the Lord with all your heart,

And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.

Separations have helped me to trust in the Lord.  They have caused me to put my emotions and feeling in check with God's will.  It is difficult to sometimes get up off the couch instead of brooding over our situation.  God wants to lead us, stretch us, strengthen us. We just have to let him. 

One thing I do struggle with is being a Reserves spouse instead of an active duty spouse.  I know that God has a plan in all this and maybe we may go active duty. Where He leads, I'll go.  Sometimes it just feels like I don't belong.  For someone who is often not comfortable in her own skin, this can pose a problem.  I don't know the in's and out's of the Army.  We've been on this journey for a couple of years now, but sometimes I feel just as clueless as when we started. I don't have any connections with local military wives. The only ones I know that are about my age have husbands that have previously served. I only meet people from Jeff's unit once or twice a year. Going to FRG meetings isn't really an option for us right now.  I think I would like to have those connections, especially with him being the Chaplain.  I feel like I should be there for the spouses. 

I am really excited about this study.  I am always open to what God has in store for me. This journey, although I have done it before, will bring new things.

Tour of Duty Bible Study

When we found out that Jeff would be deploying, I thought of doing the Tour of Duty Bible Study (again). I completed the study the first time back in May 2011 and found it very beneficial.

Each time Jeff is gone away for a long period of time either for his civilian job or for Army training, I find myself referring to topics and ideas from that study.  So, I definitely knew I would need to do it again during the deployment. 

Well, after we found out that Jeff was not going to deploy, I still considered doing the Bible study. After all, the Army does what they want and I knew there was a possibility that he could still go somewhere.  Shortly after Jeff's orders were rescinded, I got an email from Wives of Faith; they were going to host the Bible study online again! I couldn't turn it down. 

I feel like God is leading me to this study.  I look forward to the the community I will join online.  I will post here about it as well. 

Tour of Duty: the final week

Well, my Tour of Duty Bible Study is completed.  What a blessing it was!  I learned so much about myself, about God, about deployment.  What an AWESOME experience.

Below our my answers (along with the questions) for the final week.  Please feel free to comment even if you didn't do the study.

1. The chapter this week started with some heavy questions about God’s purpose for your life. If you feel comfortable sharing, what were some of your answers?

As my husband and I talked last night, I found this to be more true than ever: to be the best wife I can be.  With what he feels called to do, he needs me to be supportive and understanding.  When I do that, I am making him happy.  


I think a big purpose of my life is to serve.  Some older ladies at church told me that I am serving alongside Jeff.  We are serving God, our country, and our church together.


Being blessed with children, I know I have the awesome, sometimes scary, responsibility of guiding my sons to be men of God.


2. What are your thoughts on Romans 8:28?

Love it! If I follow in God's will, He will provide for me.


We have a family friend who is running from God's will and the more he runs, the worse things seem to get for him and his family.  


Being in God's will is sometimes scary, but He promises to bless us for our obedience.


3. What’s the difference between self-created courage and courage that comes from God? What insights did you have as you read about courage?

Courage is NOT about me. It is about humbling myself (which can be scary) and fully relying on the strength of God.  It is about surrendering myself to his will, his plans, and allowing him to work through me.

4. What did you learn from the story of Esther this week?

I think I was just reminded more than ever that this is my time to serve God.  Whether it is being an Army wife or a preacher's wife, a mother, a teacher, or friend, He has chosen me for this time and I must be obedient to His calling.

5. How do you find yourself being courageous? In what areas of life do you struggle with this?

Sometimes the courage to just hang in there is difficult.  Exhaustion sets in and it is so easy to give up. Being a mom of three boys, working full time as a teacher, being involved at church, and coaching whatever sport we've signed up for leaves me very tired sometimes.  Therefore I sometimes say I can't do other things God wants me to do.  I think sometimes it takes courage to say, "ok, I have had enough," and I think it takes even more courage to say, "God, I need you. I can't do this but I know you can. Please help me." 

6. What’s the biggest takeaway you’ve had from this study and sharing and hearing from the other ladies who have participated over the last 8 weeks?

I have learned that whatever lies ahead, whatever God places before me, I can get through it with Him by my side.  I am never alone.  I have to be willing to admit that I can't do it alone and I need God.  I have to open my eyes to see how He is working in my life.  I have to give him praise for what he does for me.


I would like to say as well that I had a neat experience the other day. I was talking with some older ladies at church and they could totally relate to things I go through.  They talked about their experiences from their husbands and brothers who had been in Vietnam and other war ravaged places.  Although they aren't my age, they had lots of words of wisdom.  I encourage you to seek out such Christian women on your journey. They bring a fresh perspective.

Tour of Duty Chapter 6

I seriously can't believe that I am almost finished with the Tour of Duty Bible study. It has truly been amazing. Thank you, Sara!

Below are the questions for the week and my answers. Please feel free to comment even if you aren't completing the study.


1. Discuss your biggest giant that keeps your eyes off God. Is this giant a recent distraction, or is it a giant that keeps returning?

I think the biggest giant that keeps my eyes off God is the Giant of Stuff.  This stays in my face constantly and makes me get my priorities mixed up.  I then lose sight of God. The Stuff is a mix of things: rest, reading books, blogging, playing on the iPad, work, or sports.  All of these things can quickly take control and I find myself so busy (mostly playing catch up) that My relationship with God is not a priority.

2. Do you agree with the statement “Giants require confrontation”? How have you confronted your giants lately?

Yes. Yes. Yes.  Just last night, I confronted the Giants of Worry and Guilt  I prayed and prayed about it.

3. How does knowing that the enemy could be the driving force behind your giant change your perspective on it?

It is a reminder that Satan knows my weaknesses. But it is also a reminder that "the battle is the Lord's," and through Him, I can overcome whatever I am facing.

4. How has your giant drawn attention away from God?

Sometimes it just overwhelms me and it is all I think about, almost "forgetting" that God is there with me.

5. What part of the David and Goliath story hit home with you this week?

I think what got me the most was that although David expressed his faith in God, Saul just kept on with the "human stuff." It was like, "oh, God is on your side? Great. But take this armor too." Saul was making David's God too small.  I think we are all guilty of that at times.

6. Which of the bulleted items on page 93 is the hardest for you to remember and why?

We've already overcome giants with God's help.  

I think maybe I get so wrapped up in the giant that when it is conquered I may not give God the credit.  When that happens it is so easy to forget what He has done for me.  If I give Him thanks, then I can remember what he's done for me the next time I am confronted by a giant.

7. Which giant do you struggle with the most: loss, doubt, failure, disappointment, or time?

Ummm, all of them!  I think really though I struggle with doubt.  I want to be successful I whatever I am doing, but sometimes I wondering what I'm thinking/doing and convince myself that I don't have what it takes or that those who say they care rally don't.

8. Discuss these verses: John 15:4-5 and Isaiah 40:31. How do these verses both challenge and encourage you?

I think all to often we are quick to rely on our own strength or even that of others (our support system). Either way, we don't get what we really need. We won't until we hand over all of our burdens to the  Lord (really and truly laying them at the foot odd the cross). When we do this, God gives us unimaginable strength, wisdom, peace, and rest.   These verses encourage me to seek Him immediately because he promises to provide.

9. What would your life look like without God? How can you trust Him more fully this week?
Without God....oh my gosh, my life would be a mess! I am holding back laughter right now.  I know people who solely depend on the advice of others.  They never seek God's will.  If I did that...Ha!  I will put my trust, my faith, my hope in Him.

Tour of Duty Chapter 5

I can't believe I am in week 6 of the Tour of Duty Bible Study. Below are the questions for Chapter 5, along with my answers.  Even if you aren't participating in the study, still feel free to comment.

1. We’re in our sixth week of this study – only 2 weeks left!! What has God taught you recently through the journey of deployment? It can be big or small.

Although I am not going through a deployment right now, I feel that God is truly preparing my heart for one. I am learning so much: don't lose heart, God has a plan, and although not everyone will understand, I am NOT alone.


2. What did you think about this chapter this week? Have you found yourself on a Mountain for One recently? If you feel comfortable, share what that’s been like.

With any season of life, I think we do find ourselves on a Mountain for One.  I think it is only natural for us to want to escape and even do so a little.  It may be even a little "healthy" to do so with the right perspective. However, we must not stay there too long.


1Peter 5:8 says, "Be sober! Be on the alert! Your adversary the Devil is prowling around like a roaring lion, looking for anyone he can devour."


If we stay on our Mountain of One and in our Cave too long not seeking a way out, the devil will devour us. Although we need some down time, too much is a bad thing.  I'm finding more and more we need to find balance in our lives.

3. If you feel comfortable, share your response to the question on page 75 regarding a time when you wanted to give up.

This is totally not military related, may even seem a little petty, but...each year our church holds a block party. We have food, games, prizes, inflatables, music, and a cake walk.  This actual event drew my family to the church a few years earlier. Each year the "help" gets smaller and smaller.  Last year, I did almost all the work. It was very frustrating. I was just a committee member and took care of most of the planning. Even some people didn't want to get the big tent for our meal because of the cost (those same people sure enjoyed that tent though!). At the end of the months of planning and the actual event, I told my pastor I wanted off the committee, that it wasn't my job to do it all, and I didn't even get to enjoy the event with my family because I was too busy working it.  God got me then.  It wasn't about me, but I made it that way. The whole event is about Him and I forgot that during my pity party. I later apologized to my pastor for my attitude and told him I would love to continue to be a part of the event.

4. To which CAVE do you most often retreat in hard times?

I think I retreat to the CAVE of Self Pity.  It is mental though. I don't normally talk about it. I gripe to myself.  I don't share my heartaches too often.  I usually just quit keeping up with my responsibilities for a few days until I get over myself.

5. What has God already done in your life that you missed because you weren’t looking?

I think I missed out on things due to fear.  My middle school music teacher encouraged my to be in the high school color guard, but I didn't feel like I was good enough.  I even backed out of living in the dorms in college due to fear, of what, I don't know. I just chickened out.  When you lack self esteem fear grips you and you miss out on what God can offer you. Those things could have built my confidence and provided great experiences.

6. Read Philippians 4:8 and discuss your thoughts. What other verses has God used to encourage you?

When I read Philippians 4:8, I am reminded that whatever we set our thoughts upon is what we become. We can make excuses for ourselves about many things to make us "not look so bad." When we do, that becomes our lifestyle.  One thing I am seeing now is that some women that I care about are convincing themselves they need a break from their husbands and children, so for them it is ok to go out to clubs just to get away.  I think that is asking for trouble. I don't see anything wrong with some moms taking time to go to dinner to hang out to talk, but going out drinking to places where others are there to hook up, not so good. We have to be very careful of becoming worn out. We shouldn't view our families, our lives, or the season we are in as a burden, when we do, that is asking Satan to come on in and take over.

I love Psalm 118:24: This is the day the Lord has made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.  It reminds me that each day is a gift. We are not promised tomorrow, so we should make the most of today.

7. Like Elijah, what action is God telling you to do?

I think God is telling me to be in his presence.  So many times I find myself slipping away from Him because I have made my life so busy and so unorganized.  I need to focus on Him.

8. How has God been whispering encouragement to you this week?

I think he is whispering, "Balance. Me first, then family. I'm with you." 




9. How do you make reading your Bible a priority? When do you do this? What tips can you share with other women in the group?

Unfortunately, just sitting down reading the Bible, doesn't always happen.  Like many, I make excuses on why I don't: busy with responsibilities, tired, you name it, I probably said it.  However, I love a group study.  For me, at this time in my life, it works for me.  I have a group who is holding me accountable, I can discuss and get other perspectives, yet still hold to what God is telling me. 

Tour of Duty Chapter 4

This week we are reflecting on Chapter 4 - The Desert of Enough.  I think in life we all get to a point where we have had enough. We are ready for that season of life to be over.  However, ENOUGH is different for military families.  Their ENOUGH is incomprehensible to those who have never experienced deployment.  Below are my responses to Sara's questions for this chapter.  Feel free to comment on anything that strikes you.

1. Have you ever felt like no one understood what you were going through? How does this misunderstanding from others make deployment more difficult?

I think we have all been at a point where we feel alone, that no one understands what we are going through.  As we discussed previously, we are in the minority as military wives, so there are very few people who understand the difficulties of deployment. For some one like me who has not gone through deployment yet, I have to admit that I don't totally understand either. When my husband has gone away for work or training, I don't have the same worries as with a deployment. Yet, I have the crisis that come along in life to deal with.

2. If you’re comfortable with doing it, describe a situation when you felt stuck in an emotional desert.

I experienced an emotional desert when my husband was in Japan.  It was the first time in our marriage we were apart. Jeff had to leave around the first of November and wouldn't return until the day before Christmas Eve.  


Before he left, we did ALL of our Christmas shopping and decorating.  We even had a pre-thanksgiving dinner.  Within two weeks we had celebrated or prepared for 3 holidays. While Jeff was gone, he missed out on Colin's daycare Christmas program.  My husband never misses anything like that.  This was about the same time my child locked himself in the bathroom with the bath water running.  Our heat had gone out one night, but it finally came back on.  


But the night I arrived in the desert was the second night the heat went out.  It was about 2 am and I woke up freezing.  I checked the thermostat....yes, it was freezing.  I jiggled it. I turned it off. I turned it back on again. Nothing.  I crawled back in bed with my son and began crying. I told God, "I can't do this. I can't lay here freezing and I can't pack us up to go anywhere and then get up for work.  Help me God, 'cause I can't do this." I got back up, turned the thermostat back off and started gathering blankets.  After I put them on the bed, I turned the thermostat back on.  It was working!  I crawled back into bed crying and thanking God for taking care of me.


Then we had an ice storm!  Jeff was on his way home from Japan and my father-in-law and I headed to the airport. We waited. And waited. And waited.  My husband was supposed to arrive in Nashville early in the day.  He was stuck in Detroit! I was bound and determined not to leave that airport without my husband.  I'd spend the night if I had too.  I made laps around the inside of the airport to keep from losing it.  We were this close now and I wasn't going to let a little arctic weather get me!  The call came in after 7 pm, "we just landed." My time in the desert was coming to an end. But oh, I am certain I shall travel there again!

3. We talked in the chapter about finding shelter in God’s love for us. Have you experienced this shelter from God? If so, describe it.

When my grandmother passed away last summer, I was definitely sheltered by God's love.  Through that whole experience, he placed people in my life to provide for me: from the big burly men in the Target parking lot when I had a flat tire to the church members who visited the funeral home.  I was in need and He took care of me.


4. We looked at some discouraging circumstances in the life of Noah, David, the Israelites and Hannah. With which of these situations could you most relate?

I think I can relate with Hannah. For most women, we come to a point in our lives when we want to be a mother and experience the joy of having a baby.  When that doesn't happen according to our plans, we are crushed.


When we were trying to get pregnant for the first time, I had a missed period. I took a pregnancy test, but it came back NO.  A week later, still nothing.  I continued taking tests, but sometimes there was no reading at all.  Finally I had decided to see my doctor. I just felt it in my heart that I was pregnant, but had told myself it was ok if I wasn't. It would happen when God wanted it to.  Needless to say when the doctor told me I was NOT pregnant and he could even give me something to start my period, I was devastated! I declined his offer and walked as fast as I could to the waiting room. I bolted toward the door, not waiting for my husband.  I lied. It was not ok. I wanted to be pregnant, right then and there!


A few weeks later, I still had not started my period. I'd given up on the EPT's because I could never get a reading.  Then I got sick. I felt terrible. If only I could throw up I found myself thinking.  My principal told me I was GREEN and found someone to cover my classes so I could go to the doctor.  I certainly did not want the flu here before Christmas!


The nurse and I talked about what I had been going through and she said, "girl you are pregnant." I couldn't believe her. I wouldn't believe her.  We spoke with the doctor and he instructed me to go to the hospital where he had written orders for a pregnancy test.  I thought there was NO way I was going to pay my $50 co-pay to be devastated once more so I bought another pack of EPT's from Wal-Mart.  I got home, took the test, and it came back positive! I was 2 1/2 months pregnant!


Sadly, I had not trusted God. I had told myself how I should feel if I wasn't pregnant, but I didn't feel it. He showed me during those grueling months that he was in control and I needed to trust him.  At the time I was not a Christian, so it was easier said than done.

5. Part of the journey of deployment includes emotional highs and lows. What can you do to combat this emotional roller coaster?

To combat the emotional roller coaster, I think first and foremost we must fully rely on God.  We've got to be honest with ourselves about our feelings, our struggles, and even our priorities. Although we want to be strong, independent women, we have to give up being everything to everyone.

6. We asked on page 63 for you to describe a time when belief in God’s absolute control over a situation encouraged you or someone you know. If you’re comfortable in doing so, share that time with us here.

I think back to a financial mess we got into.  It was not fun, but certainly eye opening.  God had his hand on the whole thing because it actually allowed us to step back and look at how to get on a path to get debt free.

7. Do you believe that God sympathizes and understands when we struggle? If so, how does that help you?

Oh, yes! The Bible even tells us that.  It is comforting to know that he sympathizes and understands. It makes me know I am not alone in my struggles.

8. In what ways can you make deployment easier on yourself by realizing you don’t have to be perfect?

It releases me from believing that I have to keep up with EVERYTHING. I can say no. I can take time for myself. I can focus on what is really important.

9. Which Scripture passage out of the ones that identify rest on p. 67 meant the most to you?

Psalm 4:8: I will both lie down in peace and sleep. For You alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety.


I don't sleep well when my husband is not home. The dog barks and I look out the window. I hear a creak and walk the house. Worries and stresses flood my thoughts.  However, this verse reminds me that God provides me with true peace and rest. I can give my burdens to him and he will take care of me.

10. How does knowing that God will walk with you through the Desert of Enough help you today?

Knowing that God knows the end result, that he is compassionate toward me is reassuring. I won't be in the desert alone.


11. Anything else about the chapter that you’d like to talk about? Please share!

I have to say that at first I had that left out feeling because I haven't experienced deployment. I had discussed with my husband the chapter, questions, and previous discussions. He commented, "you know that we will have a deployment when I get my own unit?" My reply, " Why do you think I am doing this study!?!?" In all reality, we don't have to be going through a deployment to experience the Desert of Enough.  We can arrive there through any of life's circumstances.

Tour of Duty: Chapter 3

We are on week four of our Tour of Duty Bible study. Although we are not facing deployment at this time (not even eligible), I find this study so useful.  It just isn't about our spiritual walk during deployment, but also about our daily walk with Jesus.  I am learning and reflecting and applying.  It is great to have conversation with all of these military wives.  Below are the questions Sara posted for this week and my answers. Feel free to comment on anything whether you are participating or not.

1. What unexpected disasters have you experienced in your spouse’s absence? Share both the funny and the serious.

Although we have not experienced deployment yet, my husband and I have spent time apart due to work and Army training.  The first time we were apart, my husband had just been hired by a new company and sent to Japan for 6 weeks of training.  One night while we were on the phone, my son whom was 2 1/2 years old at the time locked himself in the bathroom with the bath water running. My father in law had to come help me get the door unlocked.  During that same time, our heat went out twice.  I remember waking up one night and the thermostat said 55 degrees.  As I have mentioned before, while my husband was away at CHBOLC last summer, my grandmother passed away, I got a flat tire, and our electricity in the front of our house went out.

2. This week you learned about the value of trusting God in the middle of chaotic situations and drama. What tips or techniques do you call on to stay calm when the unexpected comes calling?

When the unexpected comes along and I feel overwhelmed, I stop everything and pray.  I tell God that I can't do this on my own and I need His help.  He always provides for me in his own way and timing.

3. Detours are not always bad things. What fun experiences did you list to answer the question on page 43 regarding the back-road detours?

I gained more confidence in myself last summer.  I was able to get my family on a schedule that worked.  We had our routines and made time for some fun.  We played at a local park after getting ice cream. I got some driving experience too!  

4. Which detour seems to hit home with you the most – marriage detours, family detours, financial detours, or life detours? How can you better cope with these particular detours?

The financial stuff really got us last summer. I was on maternity leave from March to the end of July and my husband was gone from June to September.  Needless to say we stretched our money! We have to be smarter with our money.  We're learning! 


5. Detours in deployment happen to every military family. How did you learn this week to face these detours with confidence in God rather than to take on a defeated mentality?

Just reading about Joseph's experience proves that God is always with us.  When things seem like they can't get worse and then do, we need to remember that God is still there. He has a plan and we MUST trust him.



6. A challenge from this week was to get off the sidelines and run the race God has for you. How can you put this challenge into action this coming week?

Regardless of what I am going through, I can still put my best foot forward.  Our Soldiers can't decide to give up and feel sorry for themselves, so we shouldn't either.  God has called us "for a time such as this" (Esther 4:14). Therefore, we should be faithful to him.



7. You spent a lot of time this week in Genesis 39-42, studying the life of Joseph. What stood out to you in those scripture passages as you studied them?

Joseph never felt sorry for himself. He never blamed God. Two things we are sometimes quick today. He gave credit to God. He remained faithful to God.  


8. Joseph learned from his detours and his unfortunate experiences, and they helped him to be the leader he was in the end. How have your detours and unfortunate experiences made you more thankful or more equipped to handle life’s situations and circumstances?

I think just having the experiences equips us with knowledge and understanding. We can step back with a whole new perspective and say, "ok, God got me through that, I know He will get me through this."

9. What else about the chapter that stood out to you this week you’d like to share with us?

I LOVE what Sara said about our good and God's best.  So many times I think we are so content on "just being." We dare not make a splash for fear of change, more demands, or pressure.  We want to stay within our comfort zone and that makes us happy. It is good enough. But good enough isn't God's way. His way is BEST.  He will mold us, break us, rebuild us in whatever way he so desires to make us his best.  

Tour of Duty Chapter 2

Last week, I read chapter 2 of my Tour of Duty bible study. The chapter was all about FAITH. I have to say that I am enjoying the study.  I hate to admit, but since my 90 Days study, I haven't been into the Word like I should.  I can make excuses, but I won't. What's the point?  As I do this study, I feel that God is preparing me. What? I don't know.  I do know that we are in a hurry up and wait mode with the Chaplain thing.  I know I haven't posted about that in a while, but I will. Eventually. Anyway, below are the author's questions, along with my answers. I've already posted my answers over at Wivesof Faith.  We are having GREAT online discussions. Please feel free to respond, even if you aren't doing the study. 


1. In the “From the Home Front” section, I listed some of my “What if” questions. What “What if” question haunts you the most during deployment? How do you combat those questions?

Although we haven't experienced deployment, we have experienced long periods of time apart where I had my own "what if" questions.  Last summer when Jeff was away at CHBOLC, I did wondered what I would do in case a normal everyday crisis occurred.  I didn't worry for his safety because he was only training in South Carolina. Needless to say, I did experience some things: my grandmother died, I had a flat tire, our electricity went out in part of our house.  God provided for me then, and I know he will provide for me and my family if and when we do face deployment.


2. What did you learn about faith from this chapter?

I learned even more that fear and doubt can crush our faith....if we allow it.  God offers us so many promises and we must hold fast to those.

3. Which verse in the life jacket on pg 29 did you choose as the one that’s most encouraging to you? Why did you choose that verse?

Isaiah 42:16 was most encouraging to me.  I think it is a beautiful promise of what God will do for us during the uncertainty of deployment. 

4. We talked about Jeremiah 29:13. How hard is it to seek Jesus during times of deployment? How have you personally found this verse to be true during hard times?

I think it is hard to seek God many times in our lives because we get caught up in life itself.  Last summer, I felt like a single mom with 3 kids. We had baseball, VBS, then soccer, and back to school.  The busyiness can very easily allow us to "put God off." sometimes I don't think we mean to, we just get busy and exhausted.  If we fail to make time for Him, our doubts and our fears begin to terrorize us and before we know it, we are in a dark pit and need His gentle hand to rescue us.  We have to make Him a priority all the time.


5. What does it mean to be courageous and what does it mean to take heart? What stood out to you in this section?

So many times we are lead by our emotions.  So many times it leads to disaster.  When I think of being courageous and taking heart, I think of standing on our faith, on what we know and believe God can do.


6. What “impossibilities” did you list on page 35? How have you seen God help you face these seemingly impossible situations?

My impossibility is all encompassing: to be everything I need to be to be successful in what I am facing. In situations like this, God has given me a refreshed outlook, He has provided me with what I have needed, and He has allowed me to be what I needed to be and see what was less important.


7. What part of Peter’s story spoke most to you this week?

Peter wasn't perfect.  He believed in what Jesus could do, but his faith grew weak.  He had to be restored.  Not to be ugly to Peter, but that is refreshing. If one of the disciples struggled with his faith,  it is only natural that I will too.  However, I must be able to admit my weakness, my, doubt, my fear, so that I may be restored as well.


8. What other part of this week’s chapter stuck out to you that you want to discuss with the rest of us?

Our faith is about trusting God. We read the miracles Jesus performed in the Bible and sometimes we look at those as good stories or special characters, but they are real.  We are just as special and our stories can be just as good.  God has so many promises for us, so many wonderful things in store.  If we allow are faith to be little, to be weak, we can miss out on his blessings.  Our country was built on faith. Faith that this would be a better land.  Our lives should be built on faith as well, that through Jesus we can do anything.

Tour of Duty Week 1

Last week was the beginning of our Tour of Duty Bible study.  We spent the week over at Wives of Faith introducing ourselves and read chapter one.  This week we are discussing chapter 1 and reading chapter two.  After responding at Wives of Faith, I'd like to post each week's questions here along with my response.  Feel free to comment whether you are doing this study or not. 


Chapter 1
1. What were your initial thoughts about this chapter/this topic this week? What’s one thing that stuck out to you?

As I began reading, I was thinking of how you can't truly receive the blessings of God unless you have a relationship with Him. 


Last summer when my husband was at Ft. Jackson, I felt like a married-single mom of 3.  Our home, our finances, our everything was my responsibility. During those 3 months apart, my grandmother passed away, I got a flat tire 30 miles from home with our new baby, and our electricity in the front of our house went out, not including the normal everyday stuff of coaching soccer and going back to work and school.  Everyone asked me how I did it, how I got through those months without Jeff. My answer was, "God took care of me." He provided me with a strong support system of family (blood and church). He placed people in my path that helped me, not took advantage of me.  Needless to say, I was kind of freaked out when those 3 burley men approached me at Target about my flat tire! But they helped me out and offered all kinds of advice.  


You see, I see those things as blessings, those that God placed there for me, the strength, comfort, and wisdom He provided, even the timing of our time apart. It was all God. I don't think someone who doesn't have a relationship with Him would recognize that.  


Because of my relationship with Him, I know he will take care of me whatever the circumstance.  To me, that was the overall "theme" of the first chapter.


2. On pg. 11, what were your early expectations when you were first married or you first became a military wife?


I have to say that I had always dreamed of the whole white picket fence thing, 3 kids (2boys and 1 girl), dayshift jobs, lots of fun and love!  Never in a million years did I expect to be a military wife.


God definitely has His own plans!


My husband and I started dating early; I was 13 and he was 15.  We married my senior year of college and moved in with his parents for a few months.  We moved back in with them when we were remodeling our first home. I was VERY pregnant at the time. Jeff travels alot for work (he missed Thanksgiving one year because he was in Japan, almost missed Christmas due to an ice storm). We opened our hearts to Jesus just days apart and were baptized together.  Needless to say our lives are not ordinary. We did have those 3 kids, just not the girl! 


Jeff has surrendered to the ministry. He is a deacon at our church where we both teach Sunday school. Our children are active in the children's programs as well.


Our lives are far from perfect. We disagree and we get behind on our bills like most people.  I think though that we are an example of what God can do if you let Him.  HE is the center of our home and that has made all the difference in the world.  Being equal, the comfortable lifestyle, the picket fence...none of that matters.  We have learned that following God's will is what matters most.

3. What are some of the things you’ve done to prepare for deployment?


This study is what I am doing to prepare for deployment so far.  At this time, my husband is non deployable as a Chaplain candidate, but we know that a deployment could be possible within the next year or so.


When time comes, I hope to use what I learn from this study and all of you as well to help prepare.


4. In this chapter, we describe deployment as hills, valleys, sharp turns, U-turns, thick fog, desert heat and stormy wet roads. Have you experienced some of these conditions? Which ones? What are you experiencing now?

Losing my grandmother while my husband was at Ft. Jackson last summer was definitely a low point.  I never thought I would have to go through anything like that "alone." I don't think I grieved the way I would have if my husband would have been home. I felt like I had to "stay strong," especially for my two oldest boys and my dad.  


5. In the section, “God has His best in mind for us” (p. 13), we talk about the big picture and “God’s best” versus “our best.” What is the difference? How have you seen this played out in your own life?

I think knowing that God has a plan for us, that He has HIS best in mind for us in comforting.  


I think back to how He showed me He knew best when my husband and I were considering having another baby.  WE were trying to plan it around the military. We knew what the timeline would be with CHBOLC and felt WE couldn't get through that time with a new baby.  When we finally decided to let God take control, I was pregnant in no time and all of the Army "stuff" starting falling into place. God had plans to show how HE would get us through that time.


When we look back and honestly reflect on things that have happened, we can see how God worked in those circumstances. It makes it easier to trust and depend on Him.  

6. We talked about choosing bitterness versus trusting God. It’s easy to resent God for what He allows to happen to us. How can you trust Him despite your circumstances?

We can focus on ourselves and our circumstances which can easily make us bitter.  However, we must place God as our number one priority.  In doing that, we allow Him to use us in ways that will bless others and it allows us to work through our situation in a healthy way.


7. Which letter of the SET acronym do you struggle with the most? What steps can you take to struggle less with it?

I think that being SECURE, EQUIPPED, and TENACIOUS work hand in hand.  If we are not equipped, we won't be secure or persistent.  The best way to be SET is to keep God the focus of our lives.  To be honest, I'm sure I am weak in all those areas at times.  

8. What’s the hardest thing about deployment for you? What do you need to do to turn this fear/challenge/struggle over to God? (And how can the rest of us pray for you in this?)


Although we have not faced a deployment yet, the hardest thing for me to do when my husband is away for trainings or work is to let go of my independence.  I do not like to depend on others; I'd rather do things myself.  I have been learning that needing others is ok.  In fact, I have seen when I have denied someone's help and they have been disappointed. Some people receive a blessing when they are made useful and I am becoming more open to that.

Summer Bible Study

This summer, I will be completing the Tour of Duty Bible Study online with Wives of Faith.  If you are interested in joining us, CLICK HERE to find out more.